How Do You Play
A couple of weeks ago I wrote an article on here about how imaginative play can change your life.
Judging from the comments and feedback I received, many of you out there have strong feelings about the matter. That's good no, strike that that's great. I have no use for, or interest in, weak feelings about play, or any other subject for that matter. In the article, I promised a follow up where I would dazzle you all with practical and useful ways to play as an adult. So, boom. here it is.
Before we dive right in to how to bring play into your life, why not take a moment to figure out the role that play plays in your life. Take the following mini quiz (come on, it's three measly questions, you can do it!) and meet me down there when you're done.
Total Score 5 6: You value play but may have difficulty doing it very often. Keep reading for strategies on how to play in ways that feel comfortable to you.
Total Score 7 9: You charm bracelet similar to pandora have left play in your past, but that's okay. It's never too late to get it back. Let's learn how together.
If you tend to have difficulty playing these days, you are not alone. Imagination and play often get left by the side of the road in our adult lives, not because we experience a sudden shift in values at some specific turning point, but because we become distracted by the demands of daily life. As adults we take on responsibilities and do real pandora charms what we must do to survive. We relegate play and imagination to the status of a spare time activity what people often call a "hobby" rather than making them central to our lives. And while play and imagination may not be critical for surviving, they are imperative for living a meaningful and joyful life. After all, if you can't use your imagination to explore your next big thing, how can you possibly get there?
Even if you played with abandon in your early years, it is possible to lose the spirit of play in adolescence as you labor under the demands of looking cool in front of peers or appearing capable or polished to parents. If you were fortunate enough to retain your spirit of play through your teens, it can still be siphoned out of your life when you enter adulthood because of the never ending demands of daily life. Because many of us spend so little time imagining and playing, we may not know how to use our imaginations in a way that feels safe. I have heard many patients suggest that they have a hard time playing with ideas or different roles because they are afraid that they might encounter embarrassing or shameful thoughts.
The fear that delving into your imagination will open Pandora's Box and lead you down the road to ruin is, unfortunately, all too common, but unfounded. If done properly, exploring your innermost ideas and fantasies will lead you toward redemption, not perdition. The way to cross the threshold to play is with freedom and boundaries.
Your thoughts and feelings are a part of you even the ones that you don't like. If you feel ashamed of ideas that come to mind because they seem to reflect poorly on your moral character, remember: They are just thoughts. Regardless of whether you like your thoughts or ideas, they are in your head, not outside of it. Acting on some of your ideas may cause you and others great pain, but experiencing them in your mind cannot. Your mind is playing with ideas, and it is far healthier to explore them in your mind's eye than to try to hold them back. Most of the time it is the repression of unwanted thoughts that causes problems, not the thoughts themselves.
So how do you get into the place where you can play without judgment but still retain the boundaries to keep you and those close to you safe from limitless indulgence? With your pandora bead charms Play Space and Play Tools.
One of the greatest ideas from childhood is the play space. Designating a room, or even part of a room, as an area for imagination and creative exploration is one of the best things you can do for a child or for an adult, for that matter, because it gives them permission to use their imaginations within the structure of a space that is set aside expressly for that purpose.
If you are feeling stuck, consider creating a play space where you can think and imagine possibilities for yourself. You can do this in your car, on your train ride to work, or while you are making dinner. Your location is less important than your orientation. The key is giving yourself the freedom to come up with new ideas or things that you want to do or be. At the beginning, it may be useful to pick a consistent time that has a defined beginning and end so you know when you will be open to exploration and when you have to put your imagining aside and deal with the pesky nuisance of reality.
When you are young and haven't yet learned to negotiate your world with words, which usually happens around age 2, you think in feelings and images rather than in sentences and logic. During childhood, if we are fortunate, we use lots of different tools to express ourselves. Paint, puppets, collage, blocks, colored pencils, and clay are all great play tools that can be used to stimulate and express your imagination. One of the great things about these play tools is that by using them you may be able to access ways of thinking and feeling from long ago, before words got in your way.
Take a moment and think back to your childhood. Were there certain play tools that you tended to use? What were they? Could you use them now in order to jump start your imagination about what's next for you?
Now that you know where you want to play and what pandora braclet you might want to play with, go out there and just do it, Nike style! Play, play, play with abandon!
The more you open your mind to playing with new thoughts and ideas, the more comfortable you will become doing it. Your imagination is a muscle use it or lose it. When you play, don't worry about accomplishing or achieving anything in particular just open your mind and let it run free.
Leave the rules at the door.
Whether you like to paint, make puppets, do collage, or mold with clay, go into your play space and just play. Let your mind off its leash. You'll be glad you did.
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